How Domestic Violence Affects the Children
Domestic violence is a serious problem that affects millions of people every year. It is not only a threat to the physical and mental health of the victims, but also to the well-being of the children who witness or experience it. In this blog post, we will explore how domestic violence impacts the development, behavior and emotions of children, and what can be done to help them recover.
The Short-Term Effects of Domestic Violence on Children
Children who are exposed to domestic violence may suffer from various short-term effects, such as:
– Anxiety: Children may live in constant fear of the next violent episode, or worry about their own or their parent’s safety. They may also develop symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), such as nightmares, flashbacks, hypervigilance, or avoidance of reminders of the trauma.
– Depression: Children may feel sad, hopeless, guilty, or ashamed about the situation at home. They may also have low self-esteem, poor self-image, or suicidal thoughts.
– Anger: Children may express their frustration, resentment, or rage through aggressive or defiant behavior. They may also internalize their anger and become withdrawn or isolated.
– Confusion: Children may have difficulty understanding why the violence is happening, or why their parent does not leave the abusive partner. They may also blame themselves or their parent for the abuse, or feel conflicted about their loyalty or love for both parents.
– Physical problems: Children may experience headaches, stomachaches, sleep problems, eating disorders, or other health issues related to stress.
The Long-Term Effects of Domestic Violence on Children
The exposure to domestic violence can have lasting consequences for children’s development and functioning in various domains, such as:
– Cognitive: Children may have impaired memory, attention, concentration, or learning abilities. They may also perform poorly in school, have low academic achievement, or drop out of education.
– Social: Children may have difficulty forming and maintaining healthy relationships with peers, teachers, or other adults. They may also exhibit antisocial behavior, such as lying, stealing, bullying, or delinquency.
– Emotional: Children may struggle with regulating their emotions, coping with stress, or expressing their feelings. They may also develop mental health problems, such as anxiety disorders, mood disorders, personality disorders, or substance abuse disorders.
– Behavioral: Children may repeat the cycle of violence by becoming victims or perpetrators of abuse in their own intimate relationships. They may also engage in risky behaviors, such as smoking, drinking, using drugs, having unprotected sex, or attempting suicide.
How to Help Children Recover from Domestic Violence
Children who witness or experience domestic violence need support and intervention to heal from the trauma and prevent further harm. Some of the ways to help children recover are:
– Provide safety and stability: The first priority is to ensure that children and their non-abusive parent are safe from the violence and have access to basic needs. This may involve seeking shelter, obtaining a restraining order, contacting law enforcement, or getting legal assistance.
– Seek professional help: Children and their non-abusive parent may benefit from counseling or therapy to address the psychological effects of domestic violence. They may also need medical care for any physical injuries or illnesses caused by the abuse.
– Offer emotional support: Children need to know that they are not alone, that they are not to blame for the abuse, and that they are loved and cared for. They also need to have opportunities to express their feelings and thoughts in a safe and supportive environment.
– Encourage positive activities: Children need to have outlets for their energy and creativity, such as sports, arts, hobbies, or clubs. They also need to have fun and enjoy their childhood with friends and family.
– Educate about healthy relationships: Children need to learn what constitutes a healthy and respectful relationship between partners. They also need to develop skills such as communication, conflict resolution, empathy, and assertiveness.
References:
– How Witnessing Domestic Violence Affects Children – Verywell Mind https://www.verywellmind.com/the-impact-of-domestic-violence-on-children-5207940
– Effects of domestic violence on children – Office on Women’s Health https://www.womenshealth.gov/relationships-and-safety/domestic-violence/effects-domestic-violence-children
– How Domestic Violence Affects Child Development https://pediatricsnationwide.org/2020/09/28/how-domestic-violence-affects-child-development/
